Tuesday, November 3, 2009

Desperate?

In my time spent living life as a fat girl, I have found that both men and women alike seem to be under the impression that fat girls are desperate. Desperate for friendships, for romances, for attention, for sex, etc. That, since we're fat, and people don't like fat, fat girls are desperate, and should take what they can get.

How shitty is that? I'm the furthest thing from desperate. I'd rather spend my time alone then go off desperately seeking attention or companionship.

Fat girls are seen as easy targets, or, an easy lay, if you will. I guess because we're fat, people assume no one loves us, and if they offer, we'll accept. I'm not saying this is the case for everyone, as I've seen big girls who get a little attention when they desperately seek it. But some of us have a higher level of self-respect.

Saturday, October 31, 2009

At Halloween... Everything comes in skank.

Halloween costumes.

Sexy, slutty, whoreish Halloween Costumes.

For those of us fat girls who plan to go out in public, these are not always an excellent time.

Now, I know there are some big girls out there who like to flaunt their stuff. ALL of their stuff. I am not one of those big girls. I give major props to those who are, I could never muster that much confidence. Yeah, I like to look sexy, but not with all my fat hanging out.

Last year I had an incredibly difficult time finding a Halloween costume that was sexy, while not making me look like a fat hooker. I eventually found something on E-Bay. A lovely pirate costume.

I'd looked at stores in Winnipeg; Wal-Mart, where the only plus size options were, and I'm not kidding, I have witnesses, Witch, French Maid, or Devil, and Party Stuff, where, everything comes in cleavage and short short skirt. Nothing at Party Stuff fit in a way that I was comfortable with, and well, I don't want to be a Witch, French Maid, or Devil.

I guess this goes hand in hand with the Pants blog. Plus size clothing designers just do not understand the needs and wants of the plus sized consumer.

I don't have much time for this entry, as I'm actually getting ready to go out and enjoy some Halloween festivities, but I'd just like to say that, not all women want to look like cheap whores. Please give us more options.

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Big girls like...

Recently I was approached by a friend, he's a young, out-of-the-closet BBW admirer, asking why it is that big girls are typically more attracted to bigger guys. The guy who asked is on the thinner side, so I can understand his concern.

So, why is it that larger ladies seem to go for larger men? The main reason that comes to my mind? Balance. Seems, silly.. I know. But, and using myself as an example, although I'm usually more physically attracted to men of a thinner/average size, I almost always envisioned myself ending up in a relationship with a larger man.

I guess, when the guy is bigger, it feels in a way, more secure, like, there's more of him to protect you? I know the feminists will love that one...

Also, take into consideration, girl on top, I am terrified I will break the guy underneath me. But if he's bigger then I am, not really a concern.

I think it's mostly the stereotype that in a relationship the woman is supposed to be this teeny fragile thing, and her partner should be a big brooding man. Well, when the woman is big and brooding, then what? I guess we just tend to lean towards the "Find a man who is BIGGER and MORE BROODING".

Big girls are often insecure about their bodies, so it's comforting to know that the man seeing you naked doesn't have a rockin' bod. Even if the thinner/average guy doesn't have a "rockin' bod", compared to how the girl sees herself, this man is a god. When the guy you're getting naked with is a big guy, it's not as tough, he's got rolls, you've got rolls. You both sweat in places thinner people don't. If he's not perfect, you feel better about you not being perfect..

I don't know if this will help with this query... But I thought about it, and this is all I got. I may touch on this subject more in the future, as it's something I found interesting to blog about.


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Thursday, October 15, 2009

Pants.

Yes, ladies and gents. This blog entry is about pants.

Oh. My. God. I HATE shopping for pants!!

My biggest problem? The thigh! Yes, I am a fat girl. Yes, I typically wear a size 22/24/26 pant/jean depending on the make. Wow, I actually just put my pant size on the internet for all to see. That's how serious I'm taking this blog. Now, plus size clothing designers, listen up. Just because my waist is large, does NOT mean my thighs are GIANORMOUS! Yeah, they're large, but clearly not as large as you seem to think they are.

If I were to take the excess fabric hanging off of my thighs, and sew it together, I could fit a third thigh into it. And I'm not talking a loose fitting jean, or a pair of cargos. This is on a pair of flared or bootleg jeans. Even on a "Skinny" jean, this happened. Not to mention it wasn't even a skinny jean. When I think skinny jean, I think skin tight denim. Not a slim fit baggy thigh jean.

This happens with jeans, shorts, dress pants, EVERYTHING! And yeah, I understand there are some girls out there who wear these sizes and need the large thigh. But, and this is just a thought, what if stretch was incorporated into most, if not all plus size pants, therefore those who don't need all that extra space can still find a jean that fits in the waist and the thigh.

I'm also short. 29 is the perfect pant length for me. 28 shrinks up just a bit too short, and 30, 32 drags. And I hate hemming pants, it throws off the entire shape and fit. Do you know how hard it is to find a good fitting jean or dress pant with a 29 inch leg? HARD!!!

So, in conclusion, a little stretch, and smaller thighs will go a long, long way.

Friday, October 9, 2009

Is he into fat girls?

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Wednesday, September 30, 2009

First Blog!

This is my first "official" blog. I used to dabble on livejournal.com, but that mostly consisted of high school drama caused by high school fights with my high school friends. Don't get me wrong, I love my high school friends! Well, a handful of them, anyway... But this is a blog with a purpose.

I, ladies and gentlemen of the internets, am a fat girl. I know, I know. It came as a shock to me too. When did this happen? How did I get this fat? I'll just say it's in my genes, and ignore the fact that, well, yeah, I do like cheeseburgers. Whatevs.

So, after speaking with my dear friend Heather, I've decided to start a blog, where I'll blog about the trials and tribulations, the ups and downs, etc. of Living Life As A Fat Girl.

Thanks for reading, and check back for updates!

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