Sunday, October 2, 2011

"You're not fat!!!!"

Here's how the conversation goes..

I say "Something hilariously witty and refer to myself as a fat girl."

You say "Don't say that!!! You're not fat!!!!"

I say "Ummmm... I'm sorry, I didn't know you were blind.."

The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines "fat" as:

Definition of FAT

: notable for having an unusual amount of fat:a : plumpb : obesec of a meat animal : fattened for marketd of food : oilygreasy

I guess this post ties in with my reclaiming of the word fat, somewhat.

I understand that a lot of people just aren't comfortable, and think it's insulting or something.  And that's fine.  But there's no sense in flat out denying it.  I've come to terms with it.  So should you.  Acceptance is the first step, after-all, isn't it?

And after the infamous "You're not fat!!!" line, I'm put in a super awkward position.  Wondering partially, "Wtf is wrong with this person?  Clearly, I'm fuckin' fat."  How do I even respond to that.  I've stated the obvious.  A fact, even.  And now you've gone and told me I'm wrong, when I very clearly am not.  Where do I go from here?  How do I move this conversation forward?  Usually just a chuckle, followed by an eye-rolling "Oooooook, crazy!"

Not entirely sure how to wrap this up.  I guess if someone states the obvious, don't deny it.  But if it makes you feel uncomfortable to go with it, maybe just go with the chuckle, followed by an eye-rolling "Ooooooook, crazy!"  Apparently, this will work for either party in this situation when they just don't know what else to say.

Welcome, we re-decorated!

Did you notice the new wallpaper?  The fancy custom heading?

If you didn't look again. Because they are amazing!!!

Big THANKS (see, the "thanks" is big) to my dearest of the dears and the loveliest of the lovelies, my cousin, my soul-sister, my BFF, Miss Tiffany Dianne!

I'm absolutely in love with the blog's redesign.  Thanks for taking time out to do me a huge favor.  I love it, and am forever grateful.

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Now that my blog's all pimp, guess I'll have to try updating more... Hmmm...

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Benefits of Big Girls

Pretty much me. Except I can't sing to save my life. But thank you JerryLaVigneJr! 

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

I ain't settlin' for anything less then everything.

Sugarland - Settlin'

This song has become the theme song to my life, I think. 

I was talking to a friend of mine a while back, he's a great great guy. But maybe physically, not everyone's dream man. And he has his hmmm.. we'll call them quirks. Anyway, we were talking about people friend's have talked about us possibly dating.  He once had a friend try to set him up with another friend's socially delayed sister.  I once upon a time had someone try to set me up with his friend who suffered from major ADHD.  I'm not saying there's anything wrong with being socially delayed, or having ADHD, but why should I settle for dating someone's slightly handicapped friend?   I know how this might come across, and I apologize if that's how you interpret it, as I assure you that's not how I mean it..   From where we stood, it came across as insulting.  That's the point I'm trying to make here.  I'm sorry better words escape me when I'm ridiculously exhausted. 

What I mean is, just because I'm a fatty, and haven't had much luck in the dating department, why should I settle for someone who is so far from my idea of the perfect mate?  When it comes down to it, I'd rather be alone then know I'm settling on someone just for the sake of being with someone.  You know?  

Just because society views me as a lesser human being, doesn't mean I should date someone else society views as a lesser human being.  Why shouldn't I be 100% physically attracted to the man I'm with?  Why shouldn't he be on my level intellectually, maybe a little higher, even?  Why shouldn't I be with someone who is emotionally, mentally, psychologically stable?  Why should I have to settle for anything less then everything I want? 

Maybe I'm being a little selfish.  But this is the rest of MY life I'm talking about.  So I'm going to be selfish.  I'm not going to settle on meh, I'm going to strive for everything. 

Also, to update, Mr. Calls me beautiful, no mention of curves, is apparently too busy for me these days.  So, that's fine.  Because I want someone who has time for me.  Ain't settlin'! 

Monday, August 8, 2011

"You're beautiful, I love your curves."

Why can't they just stop at "You're beautiful."?  They always need to tack on that last little bit, calling me out on being a fatty.

Now, I'm comfortable with who I am.  Sometimes I even border on confident in my looks.  And who doesn't love to hear someone tell them how pretty they are??  I love compliments!  Keep 'em coming!  But why the need to remind me that I'm fat.  "You're pretty, but you're pretty because I'm into fat chicks."  Awesome... Thanks...

I think about 95% percent of the time someone's complimented my appearance they've added something about my extra bits.  More recently though, the gentlemen I'm currently dating, just straight up said "You're beautiful."  And wow, was that ever refreshing!  I didn't really think too much into it at that moment, but after the conversation I just had with a friend of mine, where the "You're beautiful, fatty." thing came up, I'm realizing just how nice it actually was.  I mean, he must genuinely find me attractive.  Not just because he has a fat fetish.  No, he just thinks I'm beautiful.


Moral of this story though, (Guys, listen up!) stop reminding me I'm fat.  I appreciate that you appreciate my curves.  But you don't need to keep telling me.  Or any of us for that matter.  Sometimes you just need to keep it simple.  It'll go a long way.  Guaranteed.

Sunday, June 12, 2011

Thank you!!!!!!

I just wanted to say thanks to everyone who reads this.

Every time I make a post I have so many people come up to me saying they read my blog, and how much they enjoyed it.

So thanks to everyone for your kind words and tremendous support!

I'm looking forward to posting much more, and much more often.

If there's any topics you'd like to read about, any questions you may have, please feel free to bring them to my attention.

Thanks again everyone! You're all amazing.

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

Reclaiming the word "FAT"

I have no problems whatsoever referring to myself as "the fat girl", "being the fattie" or just using the word "fat" to describe myself.

In my opinion, "fat" is just an adjective. Sure, I could dress it up, refer to myself as "pleasantly plump", "fluffy", the ever popular "curvy", but "fat" is short and easy, so why bother?

Apparently people find this word offensive. It seems to make the skinny folk uncomfortable when I use it. Maybe that's why I do... I enjoy watching the skinnies squirm. Muahahaha.

But when you think about it, if I were to say "Oh wow! You're so thin!" Chances are you wouldn't find this terribly offensive, more of a mere observation. But if I were to say "Oh wow! You're so fat!", chances are, if this were to you, or you overheard me say this to someone, you'd think, "Wow, what a bitch.." It's just an adjective!

On the other hand though.. I suppose it's one thing for me to call myself fat, but if someone else did I might feel offended.

I guess it's like the N word... If you're black, it's totally ok.

So if you're fat, well let's own the word!

Fuck yeah! I'm fat! Go team!

Ok, so I just got sort of lazy finishing this up. It's late, I'm tired, give me a break. :P

Monday, April 11, 2011

Bad Rep!

I'm not going to point any fingers here, and I'm not sure if I've touched on this before, but it's something that's been on my mind for a while, so let's put it out there!

Come now childrens, gather 'round, time for a story!

Once upon a time, there was a fat girl.  This fat girl didn't have much in terms of standards, and often boasted about her many sexual conquests. She wasn't really a woman of beauty or class, but alas, she was who she was. Anyway, this girl got around. And she wasn't exactly picky.

Now, that's fine and all.  If that's how you have chosen to live your life, good for you! Just you know, be safe, etc.

But here's where I have an issue. Because of her open door policy, many of her "conquests" are under the impression all fat girls have the same stance. "You want it, you got it!"

No. Just no.

And it's such a shame! She's giving us all a bad rep.

Now, I'm not some stuck up prude, guarding my flower and all that bullshit. But there is no reason for men to assume that just because I'm fat I'll come waddling over to jump your bones.

Anyway, there were a couple of other directions I wanted to take here. But that's where I'll go for now.