Saturday, October 31, 2009

At Halloween... Everything comes in skank.

Halloween costumes.

Sexy, slutty, whoreish Halloween Costumes.

For those of us fat girls who plan to go out in public, these are not always an excellent time.

Now, I know there are some big girls out there who like to flaunt their stuff. ALL of their stuff. I am not one of those big girls. I give major props to those who are, I could never muster that much confidence. Yeah, I like to look sexy, but not with all my fat hanging out.

Last year I had an incredibly difficult time finding a Halloween costume that was sexy, while not making me look like a fat hooker. I eventually found something on E-Bay. A lovely pirate costume.

I'd looked at stores in Winnipeg; Wal-Mart, where the only plus size options were, and I'm not kidding, I have witnesses, Witch, French Maid, or Devil, and Party Stuff, where, everything comes in cleavage and short short skirt. Nothing at Party Stuff fit in a way that I was comfortable with, and well, I don't want to be a Witch, French Maid, or Devil.

I guess this goes hand in hand with the Pants blog. Plus size clothing designers just do not understand the needs and wants of the plus sized consumer.

I don't have much time for this entry, as I'm actually getting ready to go out and enjoy some Halloween festivities, but I'd just like to say that, not all women want to look like cheap whores. Please give us more options.

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Big girls like...

Recently I was approached by a friend, he's a young, out-of-the-closet BBW admirer, asking why it is that big girls are typically more attracted to bigger guys. The guy who asked is on the thinner side, so I can understand his concern.

So, why is it that larger ladies seem to go for larger men? The main reason that comes to my mind? Balance. Seems, silly.. I know. But, and using myself as an example, although I'm usually more physically attracted to men of a thinner/average size, I almost always envisioned myself ending up in a relationship with a larger man.

I guess, when the guy is bigger, it feels in a way, more secure, like, there's more of him to protect you? I know the feminists will love that one...

Also, take into consideration, girl on top, I am terrified I will break the guy underneath me. But if he's bigger then I am, not really a concern.

I think it's mostly the stereotype that in a relationship the woman is supposed to be this teeny fragile thing, and her partner should be a big brooding man. Well, when the woman is big and brooding, then what? I guess we just tend to lean towards the "Find a man who is BIGGER and MORE BROODING".

Big girls are often insecure about their bodies, so it's comforting to know that the man seeing you naked doesn't have a rockin' bod. Even if the thinner/average guy doesn't have a "rockin' bod", compared to how the girl sees herself, this man is a god. When the guy you're getting naked with is a big guy, it's not as tough, he's got rolls, you've got rolls. You both sweat in places thinner people don't. If he's not perfect, you feel better about you not being perfect..

I don't know if this will help with this query... But I thought about it, and this is all I got. I may touch on this subject more in the future, as it's something I found interesting to blog about.


If you have any questions or topics you'd like to see discussed, post it in the comments or send me an email!

Thursday, October 15, 2009

Pants.

Yes, ladies and gents. This blog entry is about pants.

Oh. My. God. I HATE shopping for pants!!

My biggest problem? The thigh! Yes, I am a fat girl. Yes, I typically wear a size 22/24/26 pant/jean depending on the make. Wow, I actually just put my pant size on the internet for all to see. That's how serious I'm taking this blog. Now, plus size clothing designers, listen up. Just because my waist is large, does NOT mean my thighs are GIANORMOUS! Yeah, they're large, but clearly not as large as you seem to think they are.

If I were to take the excess fabric hanging off of my thighs, and sew it together, I could fit a third thigh into it. And I'm not talking a loose fitting jean, or a pair of cargos. This is on a pair of flared or bootleg jeans. Even on a "Skinny" jean, this happened. Not to mention it wasn't even a skinny jean. When I think skinny jean, I think skin tight denim. Not a slim fit baggy thigh jean.

This happens with jeans, shorts, dress pants, EVERYTHING! And yeah, I understand there are some girls out there who wear these sizes and need the large thigh. But, and this is just a thought, what if stretch was incorporated into most, if not all plus size pants, therefore those who don't need all that extra space can still find a jean that fits in the waist and the thigh.

I'm also short. 29 is the perfect pant length for me. 28 shrinks up just a bit too short, and 30, 32 drags. And I hate hemming pants, it throws off the entire shape and fit. Do you know how hard it is to find a good fitting jean or dress pant with a 29 inch leg? HARD!!!

So, in conclusion, a little stretch, and smaller thighs will go a long, long way.

Friday, October 9, 2009

Is he into fat girls?

Here's the scenario:

You're minding your own business, and what's this? A good looking, seemingly normal, close to your age guy is talking to you. He seems nice. Conversation is good. What was that? Is he flirting with you? No no... there's no way he's into fat girls. Probably just showing you pity.

This is what goes through the mind of a fat girl EVERYTIME a guy talks to her. At least, this fat girl.

It seems, for the most part, the only men who are legit into fat girls are either old, creepy, just have a sexual fat girl fetish, or all of the above.

Let's discuss these three, shall we.

First, the old guy. I don't know what it is about a young fat girl, but the old guys love them! I can't even begin to tell you how many messages I get on sites like www.plentyoffish.com, or www.bbwchatzone.com from old guys. And by old I don't just mean a few years older than myself, (I'm 22, by the way), I mean men ranging from 40-80. Yes. I've actually been messaged by a 79 year old man who was interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with me. In my opinion, I think it's the older guys who are less closeted about their love of fat girls. They're older, wiser, more experienced. They know what they like, and they like a girl with a little cushion for the pushin'. And that is excellent! Go team old guys who know what they like! But I just can't see myself sleeping with or dating a man that could practically be my father. Just... wierd.

Next up, the creepy guy. I know it's not just the fat girl that deals with the creeper, so I don't even think I'll go into detail here. We've all been there. From the creepy comments, to the creepy unecessary attempts to touch you. Ick.

And finally, the fat girl fetish. This one, in my opinion, is the hardest to deal with. The smokin' hot guy, who loves the look and feel of a fat girl, as long as no one else knows. The closeted chubby chaser. He'll chat you up, then invite you over for the late night booty call when no one's around, or the roomies are all asleep. He'll never be seen in public with you, introduce you to his friends. His friends probably don't know you exist. I try to avoid this guy altogether. Even if the sex is amazing, and he's the hottest thing on two legs, if he prefers to keep you hidden because you're just his fetish, he's not worth your time.

So, in my experience, the chance that a decent, good-looking, normal guy, is into fat girls, slim to none. They are out there, just really hard to find!